Husband and wife quarrel has always been linked to has a bad reputation, but the fight does not know the beauty of its own fight. Quarrel to vent to the feelings of depression, reduce stress, reduce tension, relaxed atmosphere; fight to make the two sides coordinate with each other, to understand the differences among , the husband and wife relations to a new level. in everyday family life, even a happy marriage and then can not avoid the fight. never quarrel with each other, either because the couple no longer care about each other and give up efforts to fix; or is bored to the extreme unwilling to exchange. This kind of marriage animals of two different planets.
as a social person, anyone can criticize or be criticized, but no one can accept the insult. in the event of a dispute, flustered and shame the other party is incompetent, no morality, no education performance. people have a saying called mm can point out each other's problems, we can make sharp criticism, but you can not attack each other, to fight as a means to vent their hostility; can not use very bad language insult each other, exposing each other's scars, so that the other party embarrassment; more reason not to lose The curse, hit anyone. This fight will only serve to undermine the role of marriage, will lead to a serious breakdown of the feelings of both. Maybe some couples quarreling bitterly fight the point, hoping someone can give mediation, fact that The regulation is not large, and sometimes counterproductive. you know, couples get together, taboo is to say each other's shortcomings and mistakes to listen to outsiders. If anything, you have to say to his most trusted person of your buddies mm . She will not say the things you go out to you and your spouse will not be blending them, she is just a special audience, one that you resolve troubles of the to a constructive basis, should not have said the fire, then did the fire thing. both have to clear, the arguments of the ultimate goal is to make the two promote understanding, resolve stress, and promote cooperation. Therefore, the two sides quarrel with the skills needed to master the following:
First, choose the time and place. Specifically, in each other's bad mood, not to quarrel, not to quarrel in public spaces. contradiction is that both sides would have to do, but thanks to a third party, who do not willing to compromise, admit defeat, so the more noise the more fierce, and even each other Jieduan, so that the other Xiabulaitai.
Second, clear what you are arguing. make a constructive argument, both spouses must focus on things that just happened Do not bring up old accounts, do not expose each other's short, in particular, to avoid touching each other spiritual trauma, painful memories of the past to be hard to forget.
Third, to clarify their views. You know you want to know quarrel with each other is still your dear partner, so you can not use beating about the bush, cynical way, but to be honest, straightforward. Otherwise, the other vulnerable, misunderstood, resulting in the intensification of contradictions.
Fourth, to ensure they both win. mature couples in a fight it does not completely irrational, their quarrel was not intended to defeat each other, but an intense form of communication, through the arguments of the opposition to reunification of the differences for the integration of flat for the novel, and finally shake hands.
after a quarrel, if you do not use language that you're sorry, then send a signal that reconciliation: a bouquet of flowers to soothe hurt by harsh words of the heart ; share a delicious meal will begin to melt the cold heart; a small gift can convey your apology mm and its effect is permanent. as a husband, a gentleman should take the initiative to reconciliation, Some caress his wife, some concern, trying to make her smile through tears. husband and wife quarrel no right or wrong, as long as the two sides are willing to go on, you should turn hostility into friendship, so that after the storm as both sides share the sweet memories left behind.
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